So Many Guys to Choose From

7 Nov

Earlier, I talked about how my relationships usually don’t get far, often because of circumstances that border between ridiculous and flat-out hilarious. My friends always tell me that I should write a book about my life (to which I respond, “Why would I want anyone to know about my life?!?” Of course, now I’m writing a blog, but at least it’s not the same as my picture and full name on the front of a book in stores across the country with my story inside it).

Well, the big picture story is this. I’ve had exactly one relationship that has lasted longer than a year, and that was from my junior year to senior year in high school. I’ve thought about it a lot since then (obviously), and I’m not sure if that experience has made me pickier, or hesitant to be with someone for a long time, or what. We broke up when we went to different colleges and I remember thinking, “What was I doing with him my whole senior year if we were just going to break up as soon as we got to college?”

Since then, I’ve been very cognizant of the fact that there is an opportunity cost (to break out a term from microeconomics class…my professor would be proud) to relationships. If I’m dating James, I can’t be dating Frank…or at least, I shouldn’t be.

That’s the problem, really. New York is not a small place. There are so many guys to choose from, and if I feel like a relationship is not going to work out, I don’t waste time moving on to something new. I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing; in fact, I think it will speed up the process of meeting the right guy because I’m not wasting year upon year on doomed relationships. It’s good not to settle, after all, right?

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