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Catching Up on My Life

12 Feb

So, it has been a little while since my last post. Let me get you updated on my crazy life. First of all, in my last post I mentioned that I was going on a date with a guy I met named Jason. I was excited because Jason appeared to meet all of my five criteria: he wasn’t crazy, he was attractive, he had a sense of humor, he had a job, and he definitely was NOT crazy. He passed the last-minute crazy double-check and everything.

Unfortunately, I forgot the all-important sixth qualification, which is “he should not be married”. Yes, a couple of dates in, I found out that Jason is married. At first, it was “oh, don’t freak out, we’re separated,” and then a little probing on my part led to the knowledge that “separated” means “sleeping on the couch for a week”. I realize some girls will go for that, but not me, so he had to go. Luckily nothing had happened between us…ugh.

Work has been going well. I’ve been really busy with clients lately, and I don’t know why there’s been a recent spike in my workload, to tell you the truth. That explains my lack of activity here, though! It certainly hasn’t been my bustling social life, though I do make sure to get out with the girls from time to time when I can.

The guy front has been pretty quiet. I’ve been flirting with a guy on Facebook a little bit that I met through Fernanda, and that’s fun and all, but I don’t expect it to go really far. Of course, I flirt with the intern, Jordan, at work from time to time, too, but that’s more to amuse myself and let’s face it, mess with his head. Come on, it’s all in good fun!

Dating Material?

3 Dec

It’s not exactly a big moment in my life when I meet a new guy, because this is New York: the city is literally crawling with them. Well, that makes them sound like bugs, which is only appropriate for some of the male population, but you get my point. They’re everywhere.

Anyhow, what IS noteworthy is when I meet one that might actually be (gasp!) worth dating. And hopefully writing about this in my humble little blog doesn’t jinx everything, but I think I’ve met one that fits the lofty criteria.

What’s the criteria, you ask? Oh, here it is: those who want to date me must 1) not be crazy, 2) be at least a bit attractive, 3) have a sense of humor, 4) have a job of some sort, and 5) definitely NOT be crazy. Now, generally if #1 doesn’t disqualify a guy, #5 gets them on the last-minute double-check. You have to double-check the crazy thing in New York, after all.

Well, there’s a guy named Jason that I just met who shockingly seems to meet all five criteria, at least so far. Let’s not cross our fingers too much because you never know, but he’s at least worth going on a couple of dates with. He’s cute, really funny, has a pretty good job (I’m not materialistic, I have my own money; it’s more of a sign of responsibility than anything) and is not crazy!

We have a date coming up next weekend, although we’ve kind of had an unofficial date already when we had lunch recently. Still, it wasn’t a full-blown date, so I’m a little excited for the real one. He’s a fun guy, so at the very least it should be a good time!

So Many Guys to Choose From

7 Nov

Earlier, I talked about how my relationships usually don’t get far, often because of circumstances that border between ridiculous and flat-out hilarious. My friends always tell me that I should write a book about my life (to which I respond, “Why would I want anyone to know about my life?!?” Of course, now I’m writing a blog, but at least it’s not the same as my picture and full name on the front of a book in stores across the country with my story inside it).

Well, the big picture story is this. I’ve had exactly one relationship that has lasted longer than a year, and that was from my junior year to senior year in high school. I’ve thought about it a lot since then (obviously), and I’m not sure if that experience has made me pickier, or hesitant to be with someone for a long time, or what. We broke up when we went to different colleges and I remember thinking, “What was I doing with him my whole senior year if we were just going to break up as soon as we got to college?”

Since then, I’ve been very cognizant of the fact that there is an opportunity cost (to break out a term from microeconomics class…my professor would be proud) to relationships. If I’m dating James, I can’t be dating Frank…or at least, I shouldn’t be.

That’s the problem, really. New York is not a small place. There are so many guys to choose from, and if I feel like a relationship is not going to work out, I don’t waste time moving on to something new. I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing; in fact, I think it will speed up the process of meeting the right guy because I’m not wasting year upon year on doomed relationships. It’s good not to settle, after all, right?